My Happiness

My happiness is not but alongside green fields and vast mountains.
It longs for crystal clear waters rolling up white sands or down dark, smooth pebbles.
It is full of the joy of chirping birds and galloping wild horses,
It is windy and carries red dry leaves and colorful, fluttering butterflies.
My happiness is that of deep blue skies crowded with pregnant white clouds,
That of cool desert dunes under starry night skies, lightened by full moons and fireflies.

The joy that overwhelms my soul wouldn't be without laughing kids,
Dear friends, the smiles of all whom I cherish;
The warm arms of my beloved, the round, sweet face of my own child.
My happiness only exists within love; it feeds from it
For, in this world, nothing else matters.

On being loved

I believe that the biggest reward of loving someone is not being loved back, but love itself. It is transforming, challenging, makes one feel alive, makes one feel replenished, makes one feel invincible, makes one feel complete. It is so good that it almost doesn’t matter that it also makes one feel miserable from time to time.
But all of the above are no excuse for being half-ass loved.

No matter who you are, what you believe in or what you do, if you chose someone to love and this someone is around, he better love you back right.

And I’m using “he” in a very deliberate way, as males are specialists – for way too many different reasons – in not committing to love. Actually, the ones who are really in love can commit quite well. The rest, most unfortunately, are a bunch of cowards who would rather have a herd of elephants on fire trump them, than let you know they don’t really feel that way about you.
So, here is my list of bold statements for my beloved female friends who may not have been loved the way they deserved lately:

• If he loves you, he will say so. He will probably say so daily.
• If he loves you, he will kiss you goodbye, in the lips, every single time he leaves the premises.
• If he truly loves you, he will tell you how beautiful you are; how lovely you look; how wonderful you were tonight. And he will say it plenty of times.
• If he truly, truly loves you, he will rescue you from anything and anyone. And he will always find you, no matter where life or yourself decide to hide. Even if you just met. Even if all he knows is your nickname and a friend, of a friend, of a friend of a guy who may know your actual name.
• If he loves you, he will watch you while you are asleep, and smile like a fool when you wake up, open your eyes, and look back at him.
• If he loves you, he will treat you like a queen, and call you his princess, honey, sweetheart, baby, his love.
• If he truly loves you, he will overcome jealousy, poverty, serious differences of opinion, his mother disapproving of you and, most of all, any kind of lack of time. He will never be so busy that he won’t spare a minute to call you.
• If he truly, truly loves you, you will feel as if you are living in a bit of a fairy tale. Life can be hard as nails outside your relationship, but when he is with you, you will feel there is always a way. Always a chance at happiness.

And I should know. Trust me on this.

If he is not all of the above, just cut down your losses, dump his sorry ass, and go find someone who truly deserves you. You are meant to be loved. Very well loved. Even if for a while you will just be loved by the one who matters most: yourself.

I know it sounds easier said than done. I know it sounds like a bunch of clichés, but life is just too short for half-ass anything.

Happy Valentine’s!